It’s possible that your husband’s rapid ejaculation has gotten him so
down that he’s withdrawing from sex. If so, that can be easily
remedied. Quite often, when a man gains good ejaculatory control, he
suddenly becomes much more interested in sex. And even if he doesn’t, it
might be nicer for both of you if he lasted longer.
Faced with involuntary ejaculation, most men try to distract
themselves during intercourse, believing that by thinking about other
things, they can trick themselves into lasting longer. Usually, that
only makes things worse.
Don’t tune out your body. TUNE INTO IT. You need to become more
familiar with your different levels of sexual arousal. You also need to
recognize how you feel as you approach your point of ejaculatory
inevitability, the “point of no return.” Once you recognize how you feel
close to your point of no return, it’s not difficult to make small
sexual adjustments that allow you to remain highly aroused without
ejaculating.
Sexual arousal is a four-phase process. In the Excitement Phase,
breathing deepens and erection begins. In the Plateau Stage, erection
becomes full and you feel highly aroused. When arousal builds to a
certain point, the next phase occurs, Orgasm with Ejaculation. Then
during the Resolution Phase, breathing returns to normal and erection
subsides. The key to ejaculatory control is to extend the Plateau Phase,
to maintain arousal without triggering Orgasm and Ejaculation. For more information visit: Enlast
