Premature ejaculation can certainly take a toll on a relationship.
Whether a couple waits until after marriage or not to be sexual,
intercourse plays a huge role in the success and happiness of a
relationship. Over time, unresolved sexual problems can slowly chip away
at a relationship for both partners.
Effective communication is crucial to a healthy long-lasting
relationship, however it can often times be difficult for a man to
discuss his premature ejaculation concerns with his partner. There is a
lot of unnecessary shame that is associated with the condition and many
men think that admitting that they have a problem controlling their
arousal means that they are less of a man. Not talking about the problem
will actually make things that much worse. Misunderstandings, hurt
feelings, and anger can quickly escalate, all of which can make
premature ejaculation even worse.
On an evolutionary level, intercourse promotes what scientists call
“pair bonding” and it is crucial for a healthy and successful
relationship. During sex, and particularly during orgasm, chemicals such
as oxytocin and dopamine are released that strengthen the bond between
partners. There is an increased feeling of security and trust, as well
as an increase in emotional attachment. These bonding emotions are
crucial to the strength of a couple. When a man isn’t able to perform as
well as he should, both partners not only miss out on these healthy
bonding chemicals, but instead are left with negative feelings of
inadequacy and disappointment. This can actually make premature
ejaculation symptoms even more prominent.
Sometimes premature ejaculation will actually prevent men from
pursuing relationships in the first place. The man may actually avoid
sexual relationships altogether for fear of rejection or embarrassment.
They feel that they can’t adequately satisfy a woman so they just avoid
sexual encounters all together. Most men won’t talk about their
premature ejaculation, especially with a new partner, so when they do
attempt intercourse, the woman often misunderstands why the man can’t
perform. Over time avoiding relationships because of premature
ejaculation can lead to depression as the man is cutting himself off
from other people to avoid his issues.
Men naturally are not apt to discuss any sort of personal problem
with anyone else, especially sexual ones. So much of a man’s perception
of their masculinity rides on their ability to perform sexually that
they don’t want to let anyone know of any performance problems they may
be having. If a man is in a relationship however, he has to learn how to
talk to his partner. Even men embarking on a new sexual relationship
should open up at least a little bit. You don’t have to pour your heart
out and tell them every intimate detail about your premature
ejaculation, but open up just a little bit. At the same time, their
partners need to be patient and understanding. Men in relationships with
effective communication often times are better able at resolving their
issues than those who cannot talk to their partner.
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